Reader Questions Addressed

I am a little late in posting these comments/questions. But I did want to include them eventually - better late than never right?

First, I wanted to address a comment about the Cub (my ex bf if you are new to my blog, he was younger) that I got from one of my sweet readers. She asked something that I thought maybe some of you wondered as well.

"Did you call your boyfriend "the Cub" to his face? Did he read your blog & see he that he was being called that? If so, did he politely chuckle but not much more? I ask because if I was in his position & am trying to woo someone....to have a slightly oft-put nickname would be distracting & not help the cause. To me, it would be liking kicking someone while they are trying to rise up to the occasion. If that's the case - then the relationship can't flourish, it can only fail. I can't imagine he was telling his family & friends that you were "The Cougar" & referring to you by that title. I'm not trying to start trouble by bringing this up during a time when you are down yourself, but maybe this could have been a big factor in the demise. Just from an objective 3rd party point of view."

The answer is, The Cub named himself! :) We of course discussed the age difference amongst ourselves from the beginning, but the nicknames came from when we both starting watching Courtney Cox's show Cougar Town. We both loved and watched that show religiously, and he started calling me The Cougar. Then he said "I guess that makes me your Cub, huh?" He loved the names, and yes, even family and friends knew about it. It wasn't the names that were a problem. It was more the actual age difference. And the physical distance between us that broke us up eventually. We still talk every day, and he remains one of my closest friends.

Second question - love this one!

Hiya, I stumbled upon your blog today and wanted to ask a few questions! I live in LA currently but have been thinking for a few years about making a move. Dating here sucks-it's all guys that are focused on their careers and don't have time for dating or they are a bit obsessed with perfection so it's hard to find someone that actually wants to settle down. In your honest opinion, how is the dating scene say in Charleston for a girl who is a young-looking 30? I've been thinking to visit and make a decision about moving before the fall-either SC or Seattle. Any words of wisdom on what I might expect out there?

I told her that I thought Charleston was a great place to meet someone. But as with any city, it's great to get involved in some way, such as joining a club or volunteering, etc. There is always something going on in Charleston, and lots of amazing people there.

Do you have additional advice?

Thanks for reading, and happy Tuesday! :)